I remember in my mid-twenties going on a bunch of first dates. I would come home and think to myself, "that was fun, I am going to ask her on a second date" or "not so fun, I think I will go pursue other options." This process is standard procedure for most daters.
However, if you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, shouldn't there be a more decisive and sophisticated process? Absolutely!
So what should you do?
Build Your Perfect Person List
Step 1 - Write down every quality you want in a person.
Step 2 - Pick your top 5 important qualities.
Moving forward, you should only go on second dates with people that possess your top 5 qualities. However, since you are always changing, this list should be very fluid. If you decide quality #8 is now more important than quality #4, simply switch them out, but always have a list of no more than 5 qualities. This system will allow you to be date efficiently, pursue people who really matter and have clear boundaries all at the same time. (Talk about a win-win-win, eh?)
So what are you waiting for? Go on some first dates now that you have an easy system to decide who gets a second date.