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Why You Have Been Choosing the Wrong Person

I remember in my mid-twenties going on a bunch of first dates.  I would come home and think to myself, "that was fun, I am going to ask her on a second date" or "not so fun, I think I will go pursue other options."  This process is standard procedure for most daters.

However, if you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, shouldn't there be a more decisive and sophisticated process?  Absolutely!

So what should you do?

Build Your Perfect Person List

Step 1 - Write down every quality you want in a person.

Step 2 - Pick your top 5 important qualities.

Moving forward, you should only go on second dates with people that possess your top 5 qualities.  However, since you are always changing, this list should be very fluid.  If you decide quality #8 is now more important than quality #4, simply switch them out, but always have a list of no more than 5 qualities.  This system will allow you to be date efficiently, pursue people who really matter and have clear boundaries all at the same time. (Talk about a win-win-win, eh?)

So what are you waiting for?  Go on some first dates now that you have an easy system to decide who gets a second date.

Make Your Online Dating Profile Better

 

35% of all marriages in the past 3 years started online.  That means a little over 1 out of 3 marriages came from online dating.  

But if you are reading this, online dating has not been successful for you yet.  You can keep chugging along and will most likely be successful eventually, or you can read on and learn how to optimize your profile so you get massively increased results.

Without further ado, I am going to give you the single most important piece of advice anyone can give you for online dating.

Be specific in your profile.

What does that mean?

No adjectives!  Do not say, "I am sweet, energetic, nice, and love to have fun."  This means nothing.  A nice person could see a friend walking down the street, stop them, chat for 5 minutes with a big smile and then head out.  Or, a nice person could see a homeless person on the streets of NYC, pick them up, take them to Olive Garden, buy them a chicken parmesan meal, have a 2 hour discussion on how the person could get a job, and then proceed to meet weekly to ensure the person gets off the streets.

Both these stories illustrate a nice person but are 100% different.  Thus, don't use the adjective but tell your specific story.

5 Easy Online Profile Tricks to Get Better Matches

We've all been there.

You spend half an hour picking the perfect photos, perfect tagline, and answer all the right questions. You message all the hottest people. With the best features. And they're perfect for you.

And then? Nothing.

Don't worry, it's not your fault, and we can give you a massive boost to your online profile if you apply these 5 (actually) easy tricks to your dating profile.

But before we get too ahead of ourselves, my name is Joe Goldman, and I'm Founder and CEO of Maple Match, an online dating coaching and matchmaking service that connects Americans and Canadians.